Does anyone else find discomfort in the fact that our lives are screened by indecision? Our inability to appreciate commitment because we find ourselves bathing in possibility. We’re showering ourselves with the thought What if something better comes along? What if this, and what if that? What if? It’s crippling.
Words slip out like, “I’m actually pretty busy tonight, maybe tomorrow” or “I kind of already made plans” or “I might be able to be there.” We say things like, “I kind of love you,” or “I don’t know if I really want to do this” or “I guess we can go to this place.” And for what reason? Why?
We say and assume everything like there’s always going to be another option. We question things like we already know the answers, but if we don’t, it’s okay because who reallycares? What’s more, it can’t even be taken personally anymore – most people just live their existence shading in all of the grey areas; no one really wants to immerse themselves in one passion, but instead, just dip their toes into as many things as possible. In most cases, that’s not always a bad thing. The thin ice that we tread on is found when it carries over into how we view and assess our relationships… We just want to entertain ourselves with whomever seems appealing at any given moment, but may not be enticing enough to awaken an urgency of commitment that may lead to sacrificial living. And that’s where I’ll put my foot down. You know what you want or you don’t. You don’t answer if you don’t have a definitive one. You shouldn’t. I do not want the words that you have for me if they are polluted with maybes and reservations.
This is where you need get over your pride and respect the other person’s emotions. You don’t beat around the bush or sugar coat what you know to be a fact. Just tell the truth – you either love me or you don’t, you either want to be in my presence or you don’t, you either want to follow me across the country or you don’t, you either know what you’re doing with your life or you don’t. With each choice you make, you’re supposed to learn something. I get that. But life is in no way supposed to be an amusement park where you get to hopscotch along a sidewalk and merely allow fickle ambition and volatile whims to serve as the foundation for your decision to take the hand and heart of a stranger. That’s how you end up chasing and encouraging pain and running in circles.
Do you love me? No? Good.
I don’t need people in my life who are not frightfully certain.